MAN TEAMS-UP WITH FAMILY MEMBERS TO FRUSTRATE WIFE-1

Before now, I hardly believe a man could hit a woman, not to talk of beating her to death. maybe, because i was raised from a very decent and peaceful family. where my father(Mr. Ikechukwu David Dike) respects and regards my  mother(Late Mrs.Virginia Nkechinyere Dike).
Then, the only challenge my Mother had, was her sisters-in law, who were hellbent on frustrating her, unfortunately to them, my father was not a party to such.
My Father had in an event, been applauded as the only man, who lived with his wife for more than 22 years, without lifting a hand on her.
As a child, I watched my Father shout at his wife, but never hit her or denied her access to what she wanted.  I learnt he stopped(consensual) her from working in a hospital as a nurse, but he provided an alternative.
There was not just an understanding between this two, there was  LOVE, MUTUAL RESPECT, COMMUNICATION, CONSENT  and ABSENCE OF EGO.



                                        ..... enough of my parents.......

Some one may ask, What if the Abusers, are my Husband's Family-Members?
Its disheartening to see a man in this modern age, still combine forces with his immediate family to fight and frustrate his wife.
Such man could be recommended for mental check, or possibly visit a psychiatrist .

                                   HOW DO I MEAN BY FRUSTRATION?
When she becomes a slave in her legitimate home, especially if her spouse is still living with his family(mother, sisters, brothers)
She is unjustly criticized and every movement she makes are monitored.
She serves every single person, probably, the family contributed money to marry her.
In some cases, the wife is flogged and publicly disgraced for talking-back at her mother-in law or even the sisters- in law. She is constantly reminded that she is worthless and highly dependent on the husband's family for her survival.
Most of these women in such abusive homes, may be orphans,some homeless and poor, while some were deserted by their family due to unplanned pregnancy.

Most men prey on the vulnerability and innocence of these women, especially if the woman's alternative was to stay put, in that abusive home.
I know of a family who maltreated a lady, after giving birth to a child for their son.
The pathetic aspect of it, was the team-up of the sisters(mostly single among them)to starve both mother and child, and bridge communication with her. Their Mother was at the hem of pinpointing the odds, the girl never did.

The Family makes decision for their son  on how to marry and live with a woman. The girl, when could not bear the pains and frustration, ran away with her daughter, at least for her safety.

AFTER-ALL, HER BRIDE PRICE HAS NOT BEEN DONE.
These category of men, will hurriedly  post on social media, " good wives are hard to find" I want a woman who will respect me, and not for the money" women are evil"

Every responsible man should be independent, as to be able to make  decisions for his immediate family.
#shuntheabuse

Peace dike.
Virgin heart foundation.